When I was a child, I asked my parents if my sisters and I could trick-or-treat for Unicef. Of course, one of the first things our mother said to us was "You know you can't keep the money, right?". This just seemed so ludicrous at the time, 'Of course we're not keeping the money' I replied, but that didn't dissuade any of us from pursuing our cause and trick-or-treating for Unicef that year, because we received something much greater in return: self-belief. The feeling that our lives mattered and could change the course of future events was much more meaningful than any amount of money or candy. And that sense of charity and commitment to others is what empowers us all. It's something I strive towards, especially when I'm feeling at my weakest..that at the very least, I have something I can give others or do for them. So #1 on this list is probably the most important of them all, in my opinion. I highly recommend it whenever you start to lose your self-belief or feel you have nothing left to give. Your value is much greater than you think.
1. Volunteer work
Many people prefer not to think about it and not to notice it. However, in any society, even in the most developed and successful one, there are always people who need help. It may be kids from an orphanage, homeless people on the streets, war veteran in your building, etc.
Try to make someone’s day a bit better. Nothing improves self-esteem and self-respect more than realizing that you’ve helped someone. Charity and volunteer work can help not only other people in solving their problems, but it can also help you to feel better about yourself.
2. Make a list of your achievements
Do you bang your head against a brick wall being ready to give up in despair? Try to make a list of your personal winnings. There must have been difficult situations in your life and you found the way out. There must be some things that you are proud of. Making such a list will be a great psychological motivation that will help you believe in yourself.
3. Surround yourself with people who believe in you
If there are many people around who constantly criticize you and bring you down, no wonder you cannot fly. Negative people can play a huge role in your life. Try to eliminate such people from your life or at least communicate with them only if you don’t have other choice. Instead, find friends with similar interests and values who will support you and make you better.
4. Accept yourself
To believe in yourself, you first need to accept you for who you are. How can you believe in something you don’t fully accept? Accept your good qualities, acknowledge your flaws and maybe work on them. To believe in yourself, you have no other choice but to love yourself with all of your good and bad sides.
5. Change your perspective
Stop focusing on negative things in your life. Concentrate on everything that is good and positive around you and be grateful for that. Every time you want to complain about all the hardships and unfairness in your life, try to find at least something good in every bad situation and it will be much easier for you to progress.
6. Step-by-step victories
It is impossible to start believing in yourself if you fail in every undertaking. Maybe, life gives you very difficult tasks; maybe you underestimate your strength. In this case, you need to find a real and doable task for you. Start with small things. It is better to have small winnings step by step and to progress than to take big initiations and fail every time.
7. Study yourself
Francis Bacon said that knowledge is power. He was surely right. If you don’t know how to deal with some issue, you usually learn all the information that can help you solve this problem. If you have some inner problems, the first thing to do is to study yourself.
Reading psychological and motivational literature, attending seminars, courses or classes on personal growth can help you get a better understanding of yourself and the issues you are dealing with. Learn, research, think. The knowledge of how the world and people work can bring you peace and confidence.
8. Have your own goals
Try to make an inventory of the goals you have for the next year, five years or your whole life. Evaluate every one of them. Is this really your own goal or just a picture from a popular magazine? Do you really want this or was it thrust on you by your spouse, boss or society? Maybe instead of traveling around the tropic jungle you want to lock yourself in a cozy room and write a novel. Or maybe you want to exchange your stuffed office for a farm house and grow vegetables there.
You can start believing in yourself only if you are fully honest about your true desires. Don’t waste your life on living someone else’s dream and start respecting your own wishes.
9. Stop comparing yourself to other people
Your appearance, achievements, salary and other things should not be compared to other people’s ones. Everyone has his or her own way, goals and results. Don’t waste your time, emotions and energy to compete with everyone around. Do what you do and be the best version of yourself.
Believing in yourself is what every person needs. Try to find this faith and never let it go. Good luck!
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